Lately I have been seeing so many messages and quotes about self worth and how we should always put ourselves first and if people don’t want to bother with us, then why should we them? For example, I read a quote like “sometimes you have to give up on people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t”.
I just want to say, WHAT IS THAT ABOUT? Since when has it been okay to just stop talking to someone who is going through a rough time? I’m not asking you sit at their door step and keep knocking till they answer, but haven’t we heard about a little something called “not giving up on someone?”
Let me tell you a story. There was a poor man. He didn’t want to ask for any help with money. He was such a man with a huge ego. So he suffered all by himself, not allowing his family to even have enough food on the table. What we all didn’t know was that he was a son of a multimillionaire. His father was walking on the roads and saw this poor man, and ready to explode at this unknown man who was touching his shirt and begging for money, he saw that it was his own son. “SON”, he said, “WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU ARE DOING?” The son, so ashamed, said that he had lost all his money in a bad deal. The father offered to take him in, but the son refused. How could he let his father take care of him? He was a grown man after all. Every day the father would drive by just to get a glimpse of his son. The son would ignore him because he was embarrassed and ashamed to be in the position he was in. In this situation, there are two people who are suffering. It is not only the son, but the father too, for having to see his son in this situation is heartbreaking. One day, the father drove by and said “I won’t give you any money, but I will set you up in an office with a salary.” The son, who never wanted to take anything from his father, finally gave in, because after a while, we all get tired from pushing people away. And also, because it was going to help him and it was a solution that aligned with his values.
So why do we have to run away from anyone who is willing to help us? And if we are as strong as we say we are, can’t we withstand another persons crap because we love them so? As long as they aren’t physically abusing or mentally abusing us, we can keep trying with them. We are that strong, and we don’t need to make ourselves weak by thinking that we are too good for this. We keep trying because we love someone, and we keep doing our best because that is what we want to always do.
God never gave up on anyone. Not even Judas, when he betrayed Jesus. So if we are trying to live an ideal life, then we don’t need to give up on anyone who we feel doesn’t deserve our love. In fact, maybe that is all they need. A little bit of love to make them feel worthy.
In a head full of thoughts, we don’t know what another person is going through. So we should just be us and believe in the best. And maybe those around us will also feel our love and be able to pick themselves up from it. We just may be their strength.